Anxiety

Coping with Anxiety and Stress this Bushfire Season

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In the midst of Australia battling some of the worst bush fires it has ever seen, it has been impossible to avoid the media coverage of the events unfolding around our country. The click bait links to red skies, Armageddon like visions of people stranded on beaches and singed koalas been fed water by firefighters are unmissable. This all taking place not all that far from my home in the Gold Coast. It made me begin to wonder the cumulative effect of this on our anxiety and stress levels. It’s interesting also in the context of this new year time, when people have come off the back of depleted nervous systems following a week of excessive booze, unbalanced meal plans and dealing with Auntie Sherryl’s opportune comments over Xmas. At a time when anxiety is already potentially heightened from people’s own self-development expectations as a new year looms.

I notice the public riled up. Angry and blaming towards a government head as he is the easiest target to cast fear driven shame. Climate change becomes a daily conversation and everyone is an expert it seems. Now, before I give you some functional psychological strategies for this time of our lives, here are some ways you might be making your anxiety and stress worse this fire season.

1.       Trying to force people to agree with your climate change perspectives

2.       Avoiding everyone who seems anxious or distressed

3.       Surrounding yourself with solely anxious or distressed people

4.       Quickly borrowing solutions to the fire crisis from people you follow on social media or ‘experts’

5.       You act as though the apocalyptic view of Australia portrayed on histrionic media stations is actually true

6.       Using all of your energy to focus on raising others from their naivety and ignore your own needs and your family

7.       Focussing more on Scomo’s behaviours around people instead of your own

8.       Venting to others without first calming yourself down to a rational level

9.       Over-functioning for Australia or your immediate surroundings when you feel frustrated

10.   Convincing yourself that the Prime Minister must change in order for you to calm down

All of these are stop gap measures to relieve our anxiety or stress. But they do little to increase our capacity to endure and tolerate these experiences. These actions make us sensitive to dramatic news stories and distract us from being our best, more logical calm selves.

On the opposite spectrum, here are the opposite of these behaviours. People who manage these are more likely to be calmer as a population during challenging times.

1.       They develop their own balanced opinions on this situation over time instead of borrowing them from others

2.       They respond based on the facts rather than their (or others’) imagination

3.       They can be around climate change sceptics and Greta alike and feel able to think for themselves

4.       They try to self-regulate before asking to be reassured

5.       They can be flexible in their thinking around the fires, climate change, and yes, even Scomo

6.       They focus on managing themselves rather than changing others

7.       They accept that anxiety is a natural part of real psychological growth

Please take care fellow Australians whether you are immediately affected by the bush fires or not. Although I don't want to minimise the travesty of this fire season, I don’t think it is helpful to magnify it. This is not the end of our beautiful sunburnt country. There will no doubt be significant change from it. And I only hope that learnings will come to people with power from this experience. Right now, much is out of our control yet our reactions, our anxiety in the face of these situations can be helped.

I have no professional training on climate change, fire fighting, politics and indeed, the Apocalypse. Although reading between my satirical lines you may find a personal opinion on these matters, my intention was not to push one. I have the deepest respect for the firefighters working in their roles and the greatest of sympathy to those who have lost lives, loved ones, or their homes in these blazes.

Repost: How to approach to battling perfectionism & self doubt

“Don’t aim at success — the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself.”

Victor Frankl in Man’s Search for Meaning

See the below link for a wonderful article describing the fundamentals of perfectionism and overcoming this debilitating trait…

https://psychologycompass.com/blog/battling-perfectionism/?platform=hootsuite

Five Unique Ways to Manage Overthinking

 

Anxious overthinking is horrible, right? When you get caught in those loops where you're just thinking about one single event, a relationship, our self, our future over and over. Maybe you get caught up analyzing something that happened, regretting an action you took, or worrying about the future of something or a decision. Sometimes it feels like the thoughts will never go away as that typhoon of thoughts gets bigger and bigger assuming more potential devastating outcomes.

Hang in there… The more you practice skills to manage your anxious overthinking, the less it will overwhelm you. So here are five unique ways to manage it. There are plenty of others but I find myself sharing these novel ones with clients frequently. I don’t take credit for these as they have been adapted from various schools of psychology.

1)      Take a Dive

There’s something we have in our body called the ‘mammalian dive reflex’. In short, this reflex optimises our breathing and our body to cope in underwater situations for as long as possible in order to survive. This process is known as a ‘vagal maneuverer’ – (Google this up if you’re interested in biology specifics). What is important to know is that our breathing relaxes and our heartrate slows by 10-25%. By easing up on our heart and lungs our brain is informed that there is less to stress about and the worrying eases.

So, next time you’re overthinking jump in the pool and do some underwater laps. If you don’t have access to a pool or the ocean, then a bowl of water deep enough to dunk in your face up to your ears will do the trick. Oh, and the colder the water the quicker this will work so throw some ice in for good measure.

 

2)      “But if I stop thinking, x y and z will happen…”

Ever notice yourself saying something like this when you're caught in an endless cycle of worry.

Now, I can’t say that x, y, or z will or won’t happen but a lot of the time, our overthinking won’t make squat of a difference to it.

Overthinking often happens when we are unwilling to commit to an outcome and this is something we can do something about. There is a mantra from Alcoholics Anonymous that can be helpful to remind yourself of when faced with this conundrum.

 

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change

The courage to change the things I can

And the wisdom to know the difference.

 

Essentially, categorise your thinking into things that are within your control and outside of your control (write a list on two pieces of paper if need be). Now go through the list of things within your control and do something practical about each of them. Don’t just think about it, do it. Schedule a time to do these if you can’t do them right now. Then let yourself know that you have done everything that you possibly can in this moment to address each of these.

With the list of things that are out of your control, go to 3.

 

3)      Burn it, bury it, or put it in a box.

Ah the list of things outside of our control. These are always the worst but unfortunately the things we love to overthink and worry about the most.  I’d love to tell you to simply take a note out of Frozen and Let It Go but you’re probably sick of people telling you this so here are some other options;

ü  Burn the list (safely please). Notice how you feel after. Write it again and burn it again if you need to.

ü  Bury the list. It’s paper, it will decompose.

ü  Put it in a box. I can’t remember where I first heard this idea but it’s so silly it gives great perspective to worry. Put your worry list in a box and allocate a set period of time (e.g. 30 minutes) at some time during the day. Then during that time (and that time only) you worry the hell out of that thought. You go for it. This is your worrying ability’s time to shine! Then go to 1,2,4, or 5.

 

4)      Run with your thoughts – don’t let them run away with you

Intense exercise induces a creation of excitable neurons in areas of the brain associated with anxiety. From this you would think that exercise would make anxiety worse, right? But this seems to not be the case. Instead, research shows us that these new baby overexcitable neurons that are created also contain high levels of GABA - a neurotransmitter which inhibits the neurons from firing (many anti-anxiety medications are designed to replicate this same calming effect).

So, the next time you are stuck for hours picking apart everything you said awkwardly in last night’s date, go for a run... Fast…

If running isn’t your thing, some hard swimming or some Bikram yoga or jumping in and out of waves for about 30 minutes should do it.

 

5)      Talk to someone, just someone

It is invariably a commonly held belief of the psychological profession that sharing your troubles with someone is beneficial. For the most part, this is true.

However, if you are an overthinker, in attempting to gain as much information as possible to reduce uncertainty, you may find yourself seeking advice or sharing your doubts with many people. This is not necessarily helpful. There is a point at which gaining details and information and opinions on your issue will only overcrowd your already overthinking brain and will not add value. After this point, other’s input will only complicate things and waste time. Uncertainty is a normal aspect of life and something to be accepted. Speak with one or two people and if the overthinking persists go back to 1, 2, 3 or 4.

On a final note, caffeine and tobacco are likely to be counterproductive to overthinking as they are stimulants to your brain and make it alert to more possible scenarios rather than less. Alcohol, whilst in the short term may help dull your overthinking thoughts, has been demonstrated to make it worse as it is wearing off or the next day (you may experience this as waking up in the middle of the night with overwhelming thoughts).

 

Good luck and may peace be with your thoughts.