Much of the world has been seemingly placed on pause at the moment. Many people have been placed in challenging situations regarding their employment or inability to access the services they previously required. In my practice I have been witnessing significant decline in many people’s mental health over the past fortnight due to circumstances being taken out of their control. So how do we adopt an attitude of resilience at this time and focus on the things that are within our control rather than being overwhelmed by that which is not? Here are some tips I am sharing with my clients at the moment…
First is to focus on our thinking. I am prone to a bit of catastrophic thinking, I’ll happily admit to this. How’s yours right now? Are you able to call yourself on your own BS you have playing in your head about the world around you? Do your thoughts end in doom and gloom for yourself, your family, your life? If so, now is the perfect time to change this.
Stop.
Breathe… (now more slowly and deeply, twice if not three times)…
Step back from social media, the news, people with pervasively pessimistic opinions.
Ask yourself these questions: “What evidence do I actually have that this catastrophic end I am imagining is going to eventuate? (feeling like something is true doesn’t mean for a second that it is - you’re feelings are NOT always reliable assessors of reality). What evidence can I find to suggest that it actually might not happen? What would someone older/ wiser/ kinder say to me if I shared my fears with them?”
These questions can help give us some perspective on our thinking always with the goal of bringing us back to the present.
Second is to focus in on our selves and ways we can improve. You have the time right now to do this. I know, you’re kids are climbing the walls and have completed their online school work by 840 am but if you really want to, you can make the time (a lot of other activities are no longer options at the moment, right? How can you take advantage of this time). Self-work is non-negotiable for many mental health professionals. It’s like brushing your teeth for psychologists. Without reflection on ourselves we stagnate and become unhelpful to our clients.
Making your self improvement a non-negotiable part of your week validates your growth and evolution as a human being. Now is a great time to do this, particularly in Australia where all online counselling (phone and video based psychology sessions) are open to the public and are wholly bulk billed under a MHCP. This is an amazing time if you have ever been interested in doing counselling with a professional that may have been out of your reach financially in the past. Reach out to someone who specialises in something you are struggling with and see if they are offering this service - you are no longer limited to people in your home town. Check out psychology today to find someone;
https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/counselling
Amazing!
Alternatively, the NY Public Library released a free App this past fortnight with 300,000 of its books available to read for free to the world. 300,000!!! Search away for self development opportunities. The app is called SimplyE.
Third is to focus on RAP. I say this again and again but Responsibilities, Achievements, Pleasures. There are some incredible resources becoming available to the world currently online for fun and entertaining activities, learning opportunities and growth. Use this global pause to lay down new routines for yourself that will serve your future self well. This is your only responsibility to yourself at this time. Create new habits in mindful activities - reading, meditation, puzzles, gardening, art….
Be kind to yourself. Now as always…